You have understood how your initial bonds are important to your overall ability to have meaningful relationships. You also looked at how your current relationships can be transformed by employing positive psychology techniques.
The aim of the positive psychology model in terms of relationships is to focus on how to make better marriages . Rather than the traditional approach to marriage and relational therapy of focusing on how people argue with one other, positive psychology suggests exploring how people celebrate with one other (Gable, Reis, Impett, & Asher, 2004).
The way in which we engage with one another in our relationships has been proven to either enhance our well-being or diminish it. Studies suggest that people in happy marriages have specific ways in which they engage with one another. These techniques of engaging can be learned and developed.
Research demonstrates that sharing individual positive events with others is associated with increased positive feelings and well-being. By sharing these events, researchers found out that individuals experienced greater positive effect and increased their well-being. Each individual in the relationship was able to react in an active and constructive way to these shared events. The overall effect of sharing was much more than the affect of the event by itself (Gable, Reis, Impett, & Asher, 2004).
Studies suggest that relationships add meaning to our lives. Individuals seek meaning from several different forms of attachments (Duckworth, Steen, & Seligman, 2005). Whether it is compassionate love, romantic love, spiritual love, or companionate love, increasing the meaning in life is the purpose and a source of power behind our happiness.
Different varieties of love add to meaning in life. Family, friends, and lovers all add to our experiences and help create meaning and purpose which directly influences our happiness.
Duckworth, A. L., Steen, T. A., & Seligman, M. E. P. (2005). Positive psychology in clinical practice. Annual Review of Clinical Psychology,1, 629–651.
Gable, S. L., Reis, H. T., Impett, E. A., & Asher, E. R. (2004). What do you do when things go right? The intrapersonal and interpersonal benefits of sharing positive events. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 87, 228–245.